Nobody Dead Ever Invited Me Anywhere Before…

Last night, Hubby came home from Stepson’s baseball game with an invite to a family member’s wedding (apparently my inlaws were at the game and passed the invitation on to us because Hubby’s cousin claimed she didn’t have our address, never mind the fact that we live in the same town and are in the phone book – but… I digress).

The invitation was worded so that the bride and her intended, as well as her mother and stepfather, and his parents, and the bride’s deceased dad invited us to share the day. Yes, the “late Charles” wished to share the special day with us.

Um, gross.

I like to think I’m fairly versed on wedding invitation wording etiquette. Goodness knows, it was a mess trying to work out the wording for our invite (with me and two sets of parents, and Hubby’s one set of parents, plus the fact that Hubby and I were hosting and not our parents, and…. Again, I digress). I spent a lot of time on the various wedding websites trying to find the correct wording, and I spent a lot of time with my nose buried is those gigantic bridal magazines. I’d like to think I know a thing or two.

I’ve even been to weddings where the bride or groom has chosen to honor family members who had passed – and did so in such amazing, thoughtful ways. Having the dead parent included as someone inviting us to share the day? Please tell me that I’m not nuts – that this is just plain weird.

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  1. It is kinda weird, I agree. I’ve never heard of that before. Wording sucks doesn’t it. We had a hard time with ours too. Ours was difficult because we were already married and were having our marriage blessed (and thus recognized) by the church. So we didn’t want to invite people to our wedding, because that’s not what it was. Ugh, the whole thing was crappy.

  2. Farm Wife says

    I’m with you on this one…that’s just strange & a tad on the creepy side. I could see honoring him at the wedding, but putting his name on the invite is just flat out odd.

  3. Okay, so maybe the poor man wouldn’t even approve of the marriage so maybe he wouldn’t want to have his name on there. Yah, it’s wierd! Smart Guy came over and asked me what I was laughing at…

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